Syeda Ramsha Wasti.
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We have been grieving since Saturday because we have lost our beloved friend, Hamza Khatri. But it’s about time we took some practical steps that would actually help make Hamza’s soul rest in peace:
1. Visit his parents on alternate days. We can make up an entire schedule regarding who is to visit when. But don’t sit for long and instead of just going there, we need to make sure we fulfill Hamza’s responsibilities of a son. His mother’s exact words: 'Mujhey tum logoun kay aanay say taqwiyat aati ha'.
2. Make sure you remember them on festivals. Ask them what Hamza used to do for them and then try to do the same. Remember, people only visit your place for the first Eid-ul-Fitr and Eid-ul-Adha after death. But, they forget all about you at the later Eids. Speaking from personal experience, when my brother died, everybody was there to support us on the Eids of the first year, but nobody even bothered to ask how we were doing last year which was the second year.
3. Help them while they are grieving. Here are some of the steps that I read somewhere:
-Listen to the bereaved person with compassion. Be a good listener. Don’t talk much, but listen.
-Offer practical assistance (Be the one who takes the initiative)There are many practical ways you can help a grieving person. You can offer to:
We have been grieving since Saturday because we have lost our beloved friend, Hamza Khatri. But it’s about time we took some practical steps that would actually help make Hamza’s soul rest in peace:
1. Visit his parents on alternate days. We can make up an entire schedule regarding who is to visit when. But don’t sit for long and instead of just going there, we need to make sure we fulfill Hamza’s responsibilities of a son. His mother’s exact words: 'Mujhey tum logoun kay aanay say taqwiyat aati ha'.
2. Make sure you remember them on festivals. Ask them what Hamza used to do for them and then try to do the same. Remember, people only visit your place for the first Eid-ul-Fitr and Eid-ul-Adha after death. But, they forget all about you at the later Eids. Speaking from personal experience, when my brother died, everybody was there to support us on the Eids of the first year, but nobody even bothered to ask how we were doing last year which was the second year.
3. Help them while they are grieving. Here are some of the steps that I read somewhere:
-Listen to the bereaved person with compassion. Be a good listener. Don’t talk much, but listen.
-Offer practical assistance (Be the one who takes the initiative)There are many practical ways you can help a grieving person. You can offer to:
§ Drive him or her wherever
he or she needs to go
§ Take care of housework.
§ Go with them to a support
group meeting
§ Accompany them on a walk
§ Take them to lunch
§ Share
an enjoyable activity (game, puzzle, art project)
§ Shop for groceries or run
errands
§ Drop off a casserole or
other type of food
These are just a few
examples. Don’t just rely on them. Offer assistance in whichever way you can!
- Provide ONGOING support
- Provide ONGOING support
o
Continue your support
over the long haul
o
Don’t make assumptions based on outward appearances: The bereaved person may look fine on the outside, while inside he or
she is suffering. Avoid saying things like “You are so strong” or “You look so
well.” This puts pressure on the person to keep up appearances and to hide his
or her true feelings.
o
Be sensitive to the
fact that the pain of bereavement may never fully heal.
o
Offer extra support
on special days
4. Football
team, make sure you win every single match for Hamza Khatri, our beloved
friend. A few years from now, I want Chapter to be the first school to pop up
in people’s mind whenever they hear, think, or talk about football. What’s the
purpose of this? Well, Hamza was a guy who used to breathe, eat, and sleep
football. So let’s make him proud!
Oh and don’t forget to bring Rs. 200 by tomorrow for the shirt which has been designed in the memory of Hamza Khatri. Let’s support our football team emotionally in this hour of need.
5. Try and improve the condition of the government hospitals. Visit these if you can and try to work with them to improve the health conditions of the entire country:
http://www.ngos.com.pk/health/health_ngos_pakistan.htm.
For those of you who think that you can’t make a difference on an individual basis, please put this thought aside for a minute and actually try to do something. If the Outreach Society can improve massively over a year and bring a change in so many lives, then a student body of 700+ students surely can as well.
And let me quote Hamza’s mom here:
‘Ramsha, meray upper aik ihsaan karo. Tum loug tou abhi young hou tou please in government hospitals ka haal sahi karnay ki koshish karo’. I just can’t get these words off my head!
Also, blood donations would help. We would be having a blood drive in school on Thursday. Please take part in that actively!
6. Arrange awareness campaigns regarding safe driving. Read safety rules for once because it’s better to be safe than sorry. Wearing seat belts and driving at a stable pace won’t hurt you. Write articles regarding safety, the much needed Community Service that we all should involve ourselves in; play your role as an individual of the community.
7. Most importantly, pray for him. Pray as much as you can because only our prayers can help Hamza at this point in time. May God grant him with Jannat-ul-Firdous. May we keep on praying for him and our prayers earn him the high ranks in Jannah! Ameen.
8. Furthermore, when I talked to Aunty, she told me that she would love to join Dars-o-Tadrees. So if you guys know some good religious institutions, then please do not hesitate to put them down in the comments. It would keep her busy.
9. Lastly, crying is the best way to let it all out and minimize the depression. So, cry whenever you want to, but don’t JUST cry. Remember that anybody can cry, but only a few people can actually make a difference.
10. There are several other ways you can help. Be creative, and do whatever you possibly can. Play your part. We consider Chapter a family, right? Well, this is the time to prove that. I will try my best to prove this, will you?
Oh and don’t forget to bring Rs. 200 by tomorrow for the shirt which has been designed in the memory of Hamza Khatri. Let’s support our football team emotionally in this hour of need.
5. Try and improve the condition of the government hospitals. Visit these if you can and try to work with them to improve the health conditions of the entire country:
http://www.ngos.com.pk/health/health_ngos_pakistan.htm.
For those of you who think that you can’t make a difference on an individual basis, please put this thought aside for a minute and actually try to do something. If the Outreach Society can improve massively over a year and bring a change in so many lives, then a student body of 700+ students surely can as well.
And let me quote Hamza’s mom here:
‘Ramsha, meray upper aik ihsaan karo. Tum loug tou abhi young hou tou please in government hospitals ka haal sahi karnay ki koshish karo’. I just can’t get these words off my head!
Also, blood donations would help. We would be having a blood drive in school on Thursday. Please take part in that actively!
6. Arrange awareness campaigns regarding safe driving. Read safety rules for once because it’s better to be safe than sorry. Wearing seat belts and driving at a stable pace won’t hurt you. Write articles regarding safety, the much needed Community Service that we all should involve ourselves in; play your role as an individual of the community.
7. Most importantly, pray for him. Pray as much as you can because only our prayers can help Hamza at this point in time. May God grant him with Jannat-ul-Firdous. May we keep on praying for him and our prayers earn him the high ranks in Jannah! Ameen.
8. Furthermore, when I talked to Aunty, she told me that she would love to join Dars-o-Tadrees. So if you guys know some good religious institutions, then please do not hesitate to put them down in the comments. It would keep her busy.
9. Lastly, crying is the best way to let it all out and minimize the depression. So, cry whenever you want to, but don’t JUST cry. Remember that anybody can cry, but only a few people can actually make a difference.
10. There are several other ways you can help. Be creative, and do whatever you possibly can. Play your part. We consider Chapter a family, right? Well, this is the time to prove that. I will try my best to prove this, will you?
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7 comments:
Brilliantly put, Wasti. I pledge to contribute in whatever way I can. :)
Wastiiii.... excellent piece of work.... this was the best way to sow seed of realisation :D
I will pray for him and his family whenever I can, InshaAllah!
Ramsha... this will help us a lot....... and i would add - crying is never a solution, instead people should work on that point tht noone cry due to similar reason. this also means, use a seat belt while driving and always dry slow
We will do everything possible :)
When is the match? I mean date n timing..
This was amazing, Wassti.
I still remember when I was there at Jinnah. This was EXACTLY what was going on in my mind; that I would do whatever it takes to improve these government hospitals. In shaa Allah.
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