Amna Rizwan
There is nothing new about meeting people. It was, is and will remain an essential part of human
lives. Man has been defined as a social animal at many occasions. Infant, adolescent, adult or aged,
one can simply not survive without company of others. Even when one resides alone, he comes in
contact not just with his family, but his neighbors, visitors and colleagues as well. In this densely
populated world, we meet known and new people every time we step out of our house.
The attitude you adopt when meeting people determines your personality. The people you meet
determines your tastes. Man is known by the company he keeps. The duration for which you meet
people determines your habits. How people judge you, evaluate your personality does matter to
you because they then behave accordingly. It is up to them to respect you, ridicule you or be neutral
in approach. It is as if their justification to every action is, ‘don’t judge me by my attitude because my
attitude depends on your behavior!’
But undeniably, this largely depends on the attitude you display when addressing and answering
people. Your speech and body language contains messages. Thus it is important that you put up an
attitude that in return is acceptable to you too. It will, consciously or unconsciously, determine the
response and attitude others employ with you. Take an example: sometimes we categorize a person
in our minds, as ‘not good’. This subconsciously determines our tone when we communicate with
that person, which will most probably be ‘rude’. You see, the rudeness was not intentional but it
was unstoppable. It will surely go in-apologized. Obviously, it requires effort to do something and is
easier to do nothing.
Have you ever wondered about being a good listener? Here I am not referring to eavesdropping or
lending ears to gossip but being to mentally absent when someone is addressing you, right in front
of you, it’s awful. Just place yourself in the speaker’s shoes and you’ll realize the insult felt when the
inattentive ‘huh?’ replies you. At this point, I feel like saluting our teachers who tolerate with our
blank faces after completing their finite monologue. Being a good listener shows that you respect
the speaker and his views, putting you in a good position to comment.
Sometimes we seek people of our own age group, and sometimes we really enjoy the company of
children and feel really entertained. Senior citizens’ company can actually be fun too. Whether it is a
down-the-memory-lane-journey, a deep political analysis or a really general discussion, company of
elders can be pleasing as well.
Even in this rat-race era, where software has developed and technology advanced, the value of
meeting people physically cannot be undermined. Machines lack the emotion factor. Even physicians
of the day talk of ‘the human touch’. Increment in numbers of psychiatrists and sociologists today
is what was never needed in the past. A major reason is the reduced emotional support available
within. One should just think before speaking taking care that their speech and actions do not harm
anybody else.
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There is nothing new about meeting people. It was, is and will remain an essential part of human
lives. Man has been defined as a social animal at many occasions. Infant, adolescent, adult or aged,
one can simply not survive without company of others. Even when one resides alone, he comes in
contact not just with his family, but his neighbors, visitors and colleagues as well. In this densely
populated world, we meet known and new people every time we step out of our house.
The attitude you adopt when meeting people determines your personality. The people you meet
determines your tastes. Man is known by the company he keeps. The duration for which you meet
people determines your habits. How people judge you, evaluate your personality does matter to
you because they then behave accordingly. It is up to them to respect you, ridicule you or be neutral
in approach. It is as if their justification to every action is, ‘don’t judge me by my attitude because my
attitude depends on your behavior!’
But undeniably, this largely depends on the attitude you display when addressing and answering
people. Your speech and body language contains messages. Thus it is important that you put up an
attitude that in return is acceptable to you too. It will, consciously or unconsciously, determine the
response and attitude others employ with you. Take an example: sometimes we categorize a person
in our minds, as ‘not good’. This subconsciously determines our tone when we communicate with
that person, which will most probably be ‘rude’. You see, the rudeness was not intentional but it
was unstoppable. It will surely go in-apologized. Obviously, it requires effort to do something and is
easier to do nothing.
Have you ever wondered about being a good listener? Here I am not referring to eavesdropping or
lending ears to gossip but being to mentally absent when someone is addressing you, right in front
of you, it’s awful. Just place yourself in the speaker’s shoes and you’ll realize the insult felt when the
inattentive ‘huh?’ replies you. At this point, I feel like saluting our teachers who tolerate with our
blank faces after completing their finite monologue. Being a good listener shows that you respect
the speaker and his views, putting you in a good position to comment.
I came across this post on Facebook.
I was mesmerized momentarily; absorbed in the reality of it.
We make fun of people,comment thoughtlessly, use our words to hurt them just for the sake of saying it, not caring how depressed, demoralized or shattered the other person may feel. The emotional setback can lead to extremely serious let-outs that we may not know of, but we don’t care to apologize, do we? We cannot change our bitter style of speech that hurts others, can we?
children and feel really entertained. Senior citizens’ company can actually be fun too. Whether it is a
down-the-memory-lane-journey, a deep political analysis or a really general discussion, company of
elders can be pleasing as well.
Even in this rat-race era, where software has developed and technology advanced, the value of
meeting people physically cannot be undermined. Machines lack the emotion factor. Even physicians
of the day talk of ‘the human touch’. Increment in numbers of psychiatrists and sociologists today
is what was never needed in the past. A major reason is the reduced emotional support available
within. One should just think before speaking taking care that their speech and actions do not harm
anybody else.
1 comment:
Awesomely written Amna.
After the competitiveness that has increased these days, it has to be realised that the today's race should not make one be 'inhumane' when dealing with others.
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